Hi, my dears!
Since a few days ago I had on my heart to write you some thoughts … although I know that this speech may be too much and maybe we will lose many of those who follow our blog …
I’ve been challenged in a new way for weeks. Although I do not have children of my own, I am surrounded by children of other friends, whom I have to take care of for a few hours. Or simply children come, knock on the door and ask me if they can stay with me: D. Every day is different, sometimes there are seven, eight or even nine children, other times there are only one or two. However, it is helpful for me to be around them, because I feel challenged to have an even closer connection with the Lord Jesus so that I can always be balanced in my relationship with them. I love them as far as Pluto (that’s how I like to caress them) and I wish that whenever the Lord calls them to be prepared for heaven.
You may already be wondering what the connection is between the title of the article and what you have read so far. I just wanted you to know 😀 that I also experience a little of what you experience at home with your children and I understand, in part, the challenges you have to face every day. And yet…
Allow me to compare you, the mothers and us, the adults around the children (educators, teachers, caregivers, etc.) with the clear sky, and our children with the gentle breeze.
If the sky is clear, the breeze is gentle !!!
Clear skies
So if children look in our face and see: the sky is clear! they will be nothing but a gentle breeze, because they will have a certanty. The certainty that: my mother, whatever I do I will not be able to make her scream at me, she will correct me, she will probably even punish me, but I will not be able to annoy her, she will not raise her voice, she will not shout at me, she will not get nervous, she won’t instinctively pull my ear when she`s upset. If I sleep, or if I turn all the food on the floor, I look her face and I can only see the clear sky. ATENTION! I know she won’t let me do what I want, she corrects me, she teaches me, but never with nerves, always with a clear sky on her face.
Is that how we are ?!
The gentle breeze
Then our children will behave like a gentle breeze. The sea in our homes will be calm. Looking at us, in any situation, they will see that the Lord has imprinted the clear sky on our faces and they will want to have what they will see in us.
Storm and Hurricane?!
Are the children around us like a hurricane ?!
Has the slapping on the head, with nerves or screaming at children, helped so far? It didn’t work for my parents! I was a very bad child, corrected, severely punished, but still without results (this until the Lord took pity on me and touched me) because all these correct came with nerves and anger (at that time my parents did not know much about The holy God).
If a storm arises from the sky, the breeze will become a strong wind, and the sea will become angry. The sea is the atmosphere in our homes! How is it like a raging sea, an atmosphere full of lightning and thunder, strong wind, hurricanes ?!
TIP
It is a secret that I also learned from the awakening in South Africa and that I would like to share with you.
Is a child like a hurricane? He doesn’t listen, he argues with other children, he beats other children, you tell him something, he looks at you and does the opposite of what you said? Mom and dad / adult taking care of the kids !!! do not shout louder, do not slap harder, do not punish more harshly, but fall to your knees and cry out to the Lord Jesus.
NOT SOMEWHAT?!
Not somewhat is there anything the Lord has shown you to do, but you are disobedient and that is why your children are so disobedient, you have drawn this spirit upon them? Shout and ask the Lord Jesus, with whom did you quarrel and didn`t put in order that this spirit of quarrel entered your children? (It may not necessarily have been in reality, but only in your thoughts – yet for the Lord it is as if you had quarreled) Did you fight yourself in childhood, adolescence with a child and did not ask for forgiveness? is that the reason this fighting spirit is over your children?
Not somewhat you are nervous in your heart yourself, and that’s why your children are so nervous? Not somewhat you are impatient yourself and you can’t wait when the Lord tells you to wait, not to say what’s on your mind, not to insist on your husband buying you that dress you’ve been wanting for a long time, that’s why your children do cry and scream when they don’t get what they want?
Not somewhat you don’t get along with your neighbor, maybe you also speak bad of her to your children and that is why your children behave badly with her and her children? Not somewhat you have a habit of talking about other sisters with other sisters when they come to you for coffee and that’s why your children always have something bad to say about other children? Not somewhat you really think that you know better, that you are better than your husband and this spirit has come upon your children, because they always know better than you tell them to do?
But I know from personal experience it is much easier to see the shortcomings of our children and complain about them. It is even easier for a storm from our heavens to come down on them from time to time than for us to examine ourselves. It is much easier to blame external circumstances, perhaps even other children because of which our children would behave in a shameful way, than to admit our own sins.
The way to heaven is narrow, and these things do not take place on it, either we give up sin, or without wanting or realizing it we will leave the narrow path that leads to heaven!
Is that why many christian children grow up and can’t wait to leave their parents’ house, because our sky is no longer clear? Or even worse, we started playing theater? At church we are full of peace, clear sky, so that children look at us and do not recognize us, because at home: storm, thunder and lightning.
the story of the two fathers
A little girl once went to her pastor and told him she has two fathers. He tried to explain to her how well he knew she could not have two fathers, but the little girl continued to claim that she has two fathers. The pastor realized that all his explanations failed to fulfill his purpose and finally asked her: why do you say you have two fathers? The little girl answered: -You know, Pastor, on Sundays when you ask my father to pray, he has such a gentle, so warm voice, but as soon as we get home, already in the car if my mother doesn’t do something to him or if I do something unusual, his voice sounds like thunder. You see, I have two fathers!
How many children live with the impression that they have two mothers? Two teachers? Two caregivers?
This can be very confusing for a child!
The children will grow up and most of them will probably leave us and go to their own homes. But will children one day stand before us at the judgment sit and prevent us from entering heaven, because during the time the Lord let them to live in our homes we did not reflect the clear sky?
May these direct words, but written with fear and love, not tear us to pieces, but let us seek the Lord with all our hearts! Let’s let Him reveal to us how unspiritual we are before heaven. Let’s be ready to acknowledge our own shortcomings and cleanse our hearts. Let Him make our faces and hearts a clear sky and then watch, in amazement, how God will work in the hearts of the children around us and transform them in a gentle breeze.
The challenges will come, maybe right now after you finish reading this article, but I hope that these words will follow you and ring in your ears: if the sky is clear, the breeze is gentle!
If you need help or if you want to talk to someone, if you want to clean your heart or if you want to know more about God’s way of raising our children, do not hesitate to contact us at our email address: sclipiride@viatasicantec.com.
P.S. Thanks to Uncle Emi who helped us with the pictures that illustrates the two fathers. I think anyone who knows him can confirm that he is a very good man. We were very surprised how well he played in the photo in which he had to be upset and shout. 🙂
With joy,
Oana and the happy dwarfs
